Great Expectations

It's so frustrating being in a relationship. It doesn't matter how long you have been dating or even how much you care about the other person. It is all about the stress. Like as a couple do we look good, does my boyfriend/girlfriend do cool things like play a sport or hold a student govt position, do we hang out the right amount of time, do we act the right way in public, and most importantly do we write on each others walls enough on Facebook. The list goes on and on. So many times fights occur because of people caring about what others think. People should not worry about that kind of stuff is easier said than done. None of these things are usually in the front of your mind but they can always be discovered in the back lurking over your shoulder.

Why can't people do things just because they want to? I mean they can but who does? No matter what you are always trying to keep up with the rest of the people your age and be like them enough to be cool but not enough to copy them obviously. It is so annoying. Even for people not dating, how often do we choose things not because we think it is right but instead because we know that is what everyone else would choose. You think this stuff ends in high school but oh no that is the very beginning.

It is said that "imitation is form of flattery" but only sometimes. Other times it is because we are expected to want to be like the popular crowd or the "it" crowd if you will. So much emphasis is put on being unique that it ends up being like everyone else trying to be their own person. Either way you can't win. Truly the only way you can win is by doing what you want to do and what God wants you to do with that and hope it turns out all right.

So don't try to be your own person and don't try to be like all the other cool couples/people who post pics of themselves every other day on Facebook to show how awesome their lives are. Instead do what you want, be happy with who you are, and stop trying to fill all these requirements you think you have to fulfill to have a successful relationship/life. Truth is, normal people like us are the majority. "Being perfect" isn't really as fun as it seems, it is too much hard work for something that is superficial. We are never going to be as perfect as others look. So...let's be content in our imperfectness and have fun with it. I know its a lot to ask but in the future I think you will be glad that you did.